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These 10 Little Things Make Every Man Feel Special…

When it comes to relationships, men and women tend to want the same things – it just seems we want or need them in different ways. For most men, respect and love are synonymous and are weighed the same, but how we show love and respect to a man may not always fall in line with what we women expect from our mate. Small gestures can yield great rewards when dealing with the heart of a man, so applying some of these simple practices can breathe air into your relationship by simply letting him know that you love and appreciate him….just as he is.

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Gas him up!

Men like compliments too – so if your man has a killer smile, amazing washboard abs or big biceps – tell him! We all know how great we feel when a man pays us a sincere compliment, so letting your man know that you love his style or the way he walks will make him feel 12 feet tall! Choose something specific, and maybe unexpected, that you find attractive about him, and let him know in a genuine way that you only have eyes for him. Try to tell him 3 things that you love about him every day. He’ll be on Cloud 9 for weeks!

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Make him feel needed
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Most men like to feel useful – whether it’s fixing the kitchen sink, screwing in a light bulb or solving your crisis at work. I’m not suggesting you nag him to death or bog him down with chores, but find ways to let him know you need him by asking him for his help or his advice every once in a while. Men are great problem solvers, and they truly want to help the woman they love through their challenges. The reason most men shy away from “independent” women is because they sometimes send a message that they don’t “need” a man. But being self sufficient doesn’t mean the men in our lives serve no purpose, so let him be the man and thank him for all that he does on a daily basis.

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Stroke his ego in the bedroom
Even if he isn’t the best lover you’ve ever had, make him feel as if he is. Men can be very delicate when it comes to their sexual prowess, and they take pleasing their woman very seriously. Let him know how attracted you are to him sexually, how he turns you on, and what you love about his body. Send him a text saying you can’t wait to get home to him and turn him out, then drink a Red Bull and get ready. He’ll be so turned up you’ll need all your energy to handle the monster you’ve created!

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Ask him about his job and praise his accomplishments
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Most men take pride in their career and place a certain value on the level of success they’ve achieved. In most cases, men tie success directly to their manhood, and their work gives them a sense of purpose. If they share their achievements with you, it’s because they want to impress you, and show you that they are capable of providing a future for you both – so acknowledge that! Be his biggest cheerleader and give him the admiration and respect he seeks and deserves – the returns will be tenfold.

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Ask him about his interests or hobbies as well
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All work and no play can make any man a dull boy…so ask him what he likes to do for fun – and be genuine about it. I know for some women, we really couldn’t care less what a touchdown or an RBI is, but it wouldn’t kill us to sit with him while he’s watching the game and ask questions (during the commercial). He’ll be delighted that you’re interested in something he enjoys, and if he is truly digging you, he will gladly share and feel special that you have an interest in HIS interests.

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Laugh at his jokes
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Men LOVE a woman with a good sense of humor – it shows she doesn’t take life…or herself too seriously. Men also tend to tie their sense of humor to their egos, so if we show them that we get their jokes, and actually think they’re funny, it’s a sign of approval and validation in a fun way. Appreciating a man’s comedic delivery can mean that we understand him, thus creating a connection…and what’s not to love about a person with a funny sense of self?

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Cater to him sometimes
 
If your man has been hard at work or stressed out, rub his neck or give him a nice massage. Draw him a bath or prepare a nice meal for him. Even if you aren’t much of the “domestic” type, catering to your man can simply mean not crowding him as soon as he walks in the door, giving him time to unwind before you launch into a speech about how your day was or what needs to get done around the house. Sometimes realizing that he wants you there, but that he doesn’t feel like talking, is all the catering you need to do. So hand him the remote, let him kick his feet up and be quiet. When he’s ready to talk, ask him how his day was…and listen.

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Don’t sweat the small stuff
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Not everything in a relationship needs to be over analyzed or beaten down into the ground. So if he unintentionally offends you by not noticing your new hairstyle, let it go. Focus on what he does right instead of harping on everything he does wrong. So he left a glass in the sink…so what??? Be forgiving. Praise his great decisions and minimize his bad ones. Don’t say “I told you so” or take the opportunity to always have the last word. Don’t argue just to hear yourself talk, and don’t focus on always being “right.” Give him the benefit of the doubt and don’t expect him to read your mind. Chances are he really doesn’t know why you’re upset or what he did wrong – and we know that. Just let it go.

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Brag about him to your friends
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Men love this. Giving him compliments privately is a wonderful thing, but letting the world know how great your man is will having him blushing and wondering how he got so lucky to have a woman like you. Even when he’s not around, let others know what you love and appreciate about your boo. It sets the tone for mutual respect, love and admiration as he will do the same for you unconsciously. It’s easy for us to get complacent in our relationships, so doing a little boasting about your man every once in a while can serve as a reminder of why you love him and just how important he is to you.

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Henry Sapiecha

These are 15 Male Stereotypes Men Are Tiring of

SO OFTEN WOMEN ARE WRONG ABOUT MEN. HERE ARE SOME OF MEN’S GRIPES

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If we could sum up all female stereotypes into one sentence it would be, “Women care too much” and if we could sum all male stereotypes up into one sentence it would be, “Men don’t give a $*%&.” But there are plenty of people whose blood boils at these types of gross generalizations. Here are 15 male stereotypes men are sick of.

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They’re embarrassed of “couples activities”

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They gloss over it when their friends ask what they’re doing on Sunday, and the true answer is, “Going to Target with my girlfriend.” They roll their eyes and moan and groan, right?. That’s not necessarily true! Guys have errands they have to run at Target too, ya know? If they really love you, they enjoy taking care of house chores

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They’re football obsessed

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If football is on in the room, you couldn’t possibly get a man’s attention. It’s like their brains shut off and they become yelling, huffing and puffing animals, right? Mmmm there are actually plenty of guys who, while they enjoy football, are perfectly mature and will engage you in conversation, even if a game is on nearby.

If football is on in the room, you couldn’t possibly get a man’s attention. It’s like their brains shut off and they become yelling, huffing and puffing animals, right? Mmmm there are actually plenty of guys who, while they enjoy football, are perfectly mature and will engage you in conversation, even if a game is on nearby.

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They don’t eat healthy

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All men hate salads and are embarrassed to eat your vegan cooking, wouldn’t you say? Actually, men hate weight gain and indigestion just as much as women do. Plenty of grown men are proud to eat healthy, and even swap healthy tips with their friends.

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They’re afraid of girl talk

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If you and your friends are sitting around, analyzing someone’s relationship, your guy is going to quietly back away, isn’t he? Actually if he is an emotionally mature person, he probably enjoys talking about human nature too.

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They don’t want to talk about feelings

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Perhaps men aren’t as open immediately and indiscriminately as women are, but when they care about someone, they’ll talk about

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They don’t like cuddling

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Oh please: they’ve been looking for someone to spoon them and hold their faces in their busum since they left their mothers. Cuddling is the best and everybody knows it.

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They don’t understand women’s clothing

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Actually I have plenty of straight men compliment me on detailed aspects of my outfits.

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They don’t like women with opinions

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Most men assume you’re a b*tch if you give an assertive opinion, and don’t sugarcoat it, ammiright? Maybe terrified little boys. But grown men find a woman who is proud of her opinions attractive.

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They’re messy

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By now we have to know that there are plenty of clean men and there are plenty of messy women. Messiness or cleanliness really has nothing to do with gender, but rather your personality type.

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They don’t listen

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If a guy has chosen to spend his life with you, it’s because he values your opinions, cherishes your advice, and cares about what’s happening in your life. Don’t accept anyone who tunes you out.

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They all want to cheat

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After a certain age, a lot of men value a deep connection and commitment with someone they care about more than fleeting physical pleasure.

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They don’t pick up on the details

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Actually, many men do notice your manicure or the highlights you added around your face or the basil garnish on their dinner.

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They’re terrified of periods

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Sure, periods aren’t their favorite thing. But after a certain age, men have had enough girlfriends, female friends and female relatives to hear, “I need a tampon” without cringing

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They hate “intellectual” movies

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Boy, men kinda sound like brute animals huh? Not fair! In fact, plenty of men have a better attention span than I do for films that take time to appreciate

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Taking photos annoys them

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You might be sneaking selfies with your guy, but in reality, he probably cherishes the memories just as much as you do.

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Henry Sapiecha

Masa Vukotic murder: Travelling alone isn’t women’s biggest safety risk

Local residents congregate near where Masa Vukotic was killed.

Local residents congregate near where Masa Vukotic was killed.

Photo: Meredith O’Shea

On Tuesday evening at around 6:50pm, a man approached and stabbed to death Masa Vukotic while she was out walking in the Koonung Creek Linear Reserve. The 17- year-old Canturbury Secondary School student was found shortly after the attack at the base of a footbridge in the reserve. A man has since surrendered himself to police in connection with the murder.

But despite the fact that the fault for this alleged murder remains with the perpetrator alone, the tendency for public discussion to muse on the behaviour of victims has reared its ugly head once more. In an interview with ABC radio yesterday, Detective Inspector Mick Hughes advised people – “particularly females” – to avoid being alone in parks because of a need to “remain vigilant”. Inspector Hughes later qualified this statement by claiming he meant for women (sorry, “females”) to walk together, evidently as a means of safeguarding themselves against the violent actions of dangerous men. He said, “But if you’re by yourself you need to be aware of your circumstances and take reasonable precautions. I think it’s a travesty that we have to do that, we should be able to walk anywhere at any time, but reality says that we can’t.”

I would tell you how insulting it is to be reminded of what “reality” is by a male authority figure, but if you’re a woman reading this then you’re probably already pounding your head in frustration. The fact is, Vukotic walked this route regularly and Tuesday night was no different. Indeed, all over the country, women walk and run and cycle through parks and manage to emerge unscathed from the experience. Nor are the “reasonable precautions” Inspector Hughes refers to mysteries to us – they are the boring, unconsciously held ticks and twitches that underpin how we have learned to navigate our way through a world that considers our autonomy and rights as human beings to be an unnecessary afterthought.

Masa Vukotic.

Masa Vukotic. Photo: Facebook

Much as family recipes are passed down through generations, so too are the tools women have crafted to defend themselves in a hostile environment. We know how to carry our keys in such a way that they might function as a weapon while walking to our cars or front doors. We indulge in real or fake conversations on our phone in the hopes that the flimsy connection might ward off potential predators. Some of us smoke, having once heard that the sight of it reduces the projected impression of vulnerability.

Women do these things, and still we are attacked, beaten, raped. Murdered.

What further precautions must we take? Perhaps we could fuse girls together when they become old enough to venture outside by themselves, ensuring they’re always ‘in company’ and thus never able to succumb to the stupidity of imagining they might be entitled to spend a single moment just existing without worrying about how others might respond to that. Maybe we should pass a law that says women can only travel outside the home when accompanied by a male relative. Would it make sense to just accept defeat from the outset, and ban women from leaving their homes altogether?

But then, that doesn’t work either. Because for the majority of girls and women, the biggest risk to their safety lies inside these supposed sanctuaries. For these women, the protective shield of a four walled home with locks on its doors isn’t a safe harbour for them but for their attackers. Does it matter less when it happens behind closed curtains, between people who have developed some kind of intimacy? Or does it just make it easier for the outside world to ignore it?

I think we all know the answer to that.

No, despite all this hand-wringing and concerned instruction, women are very well-versed in the things that pose a risk to our safety. Or rather, the one thing that poses the biggest risk.

Men.

This is the actual reality of the world that we live in, but apparently we’re not allowed to talk about it because it’s unfair and cruel and misandrist and mean. Don’t we know that the MAJORITY of men are good and decent people? How DARE we besmirch their names and reputations by discussing the demonstrable, evidence supported problem of male violence and its protracted, deliberate impact on women!

Instead, we must behave as if these ‘risks’ are unknown and unconnected – as if it is parks or dark streets or alleyways themselves that are killing women, as if danger simply falls out of the sky and snuffs out their lives, like a cartoon anvil or a piano or a house brought down in a tornado to land on a witch trespassing on land that was never hers to begin with.

For too long, women have been sold the lie that the world does not really belong to us. That we are merely guests, here on the provisional invitation of men who expect us to behave ourselves, speak when we’re spoken to and provide all the comforts and charm of a deferential dinner companion indebted somehow to the goodwill of the host. Our time as the docile, malleable maidens responsible for absorbing the impact of men’s choices ends right now.

Because here’s some “reality” for Inspector Hughes, and anyone inclined to agree with his advice, however well intentioned it might have been. Until we substantially address the toxicity of patriarchy, women will always be subjected to the aggression and hostility of men who are left to their own devices by a society unwilling to look at those patterns of male behaviour which lead to gendered violence. The repetition of history has demonstrated that if we want to decrease the risk of gendered violence used against women, we won’t do it by continuing to challenge and police women’s behaviour.

We can do it simply by changing men’s behaviour. That’s the reality. So let’s get started.

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Henry Sapiecha

Male sexual entitlement is killing off women

Ben Moynihan was found guilty of stabbing three women.

Ben Moynihan was found guilty of stabbing three women.

Far too many men grow up thinking they are owed sex. That if they drive the right car, frequent the right clubs, say the right (“nice”) things, women will obligingly remove their clothes and grant them access to their bodies.

Cracked‘s David Wong nails the culture that encourages men to believe women owe them sex:

“We were told this by every movie, TV show, novel, comic book, video game and song we encountered. When the Karate Kid wins the tournament, his prize is a trophy and Elisabeth Shue. Neo saves the world and is awarded Trinity. Marty McFly gets his dream girl, John McClane gets his ex-wife back, Keanu “Speed” Reeves gets Sandra Bullock … Hell, at the end of An Officer and a Gentleman, Richard Gere walks into the lady’s workplace and just carries her out like he’s picking up a suit at the dry cleaner.”

When women veer off-script and refuse, the consequences can be tragic. This is where I get frustrated with those who refuse to take seriously the importance and impact of pop culture. Why is it so hard to accept that the media we consume helps to both construct our world and shape our perception of it?

But male entitlement is on open display in the real world also. It’s in the way women are told to smile by complete strangers, it’s in the catcalling, the harassment, the shockingly public incidents of molestation.

It’s in the irrational hatred directed at overweight women, as if being fat is a personal affront to men, and in the way society either looks the other way or vilifies women who dare to speak out. Our society abets male entitlement even as it denies its existence.

Entitlement. Rejection. Revenge. No matter how often the pattern repeats, the violence that ensues continues to be treated in isolation, as if existing in a void rather than in a culture that still glorifies an outdated view of masculinity and male sexuality.

We wring our hands searching for an explanation, even when the answer is staring us in the face– this violence is a result of men thinking they are entitled to access women’s bodies and, in the cases of domestic violence, to control women.

In just the last few days, I have come across two superficially different cases that, on closer inspection, follow this familiar pattern.

Last month in the UK, 17-year-old Ben Moynihan was found guilty of stabbing three women. Fortunately, all three survived. His motive? Moynihan told police that “all women need to die” because they were too “fussy.”

He gives further evidence in his diary, “I was planning to murder mainly women as an act of revenge because of the life they gave me, I’m still a virgin at 17.”

In other words, women wouldn’t give him the sex he thought was his right. So he tried to kill three of them. Where have we heard this before?

Unlike Moynihan, who didn’t know his victims, former US Coast Guard Adrian Loya knew his victims all too well. In a pre-planned attack, Loya entered the home of married couple Lisa and Anna Trubnikova and shot them both.

And his motive? He had been stationed with Lisa and Ann years earlier during their time in the Alaskan coast guard. He pursued Lisa who repeatedly rejected him. Even moving across the country to Cape Cod in Massachusetts could not save her from his unwanted advances. The Boston Globe reports:

“After the couple moved to the Cape, he continued to pursue her romantically,  although she showed no interest, relatives said. “He became obsessed,” one family member, who asked not to be identified, said. “He was fixated on her”.”

He thought he was entitled to her. She rejected him. As revenge, he shot her and her wife. Lisa did not survive.

We have to acknowledge this pattern. There is something in our culture (hint: it has something to do with our fetishisation of domineering masculinity) that gives rise to men who feel that violent rage is an appropriate response to women who take control of their sexuality.

Yes, women can be violent too. But they do not, in large numbers, try to kill men just because they rejected them. Men are not killed by their female intimate partners at anything approaching the rate of one per week in Australia and two per week in the UK. There is no corresponding global pattern of female violence against men. It simply does not exist.

Again, this is not an attack on men but a plea for an end to the way society idolises masculinity as a source of power.

It is a call for an end to a stunted view of female sexuality that downplays women’s pleasure, positioning them as little more than instruments for male gratification.

Incidents of male violence against women are not aberrations. They are not unexplainable, and most importantly, they are not unpreventable.

The culture of male entitlement is real and it is killing women. How many more have to be harmed before we admit it?

The lingerie market & adore me secrets to it’s success

Adore Me’s secret for disrupting the lingerie market<br /><br />

Models wear latest-season Adore Me lingerie: the start-up’s customers are able vote on new styles or lines it is considering

In the weeks leading up to Valentine’s Day, the headquarters of Adore Me, a lingerie startup, are frantic with activity, for good reason: Its daily sales in this period are more than 20 times the typical volume.

So significant is Valentine’s Day for this 3-year-old company, in fact, that a flat screen mounted on a wall in the company’s offices, in the heart of New York’s fashion district, counts down the days, hours and seconds until Feb. 14.

There is more to the lingerie business than meets the eye. These garments are complex to design and size – bras have up to 20 components – and manufacturing them requires long lead times and large minimum orders.

“If you want to start a brand with, say, 100 different styles, and you need to purchase 5,000 to 10,000 units of each, that’s a $10 million to $15 million [all figures $US] investment before you’ve made any sales,” said Adore Me’s chief executive and co-founder, Morgan Hermand-Waiche. “It’s a hard problem to crack,” and it is the reason, he said, that Victoria’s Secret has been the dominant player.

The market is top-heavy, to say the least, with L Brands, the parent company of Victoria’s Secret and Pink, accounting for about 42 percent of the $13 billion U.S. lingerie market, according to the research firm IBISWorld. The next largest competitors, Frederick’s of Hollywood and American Eagle Outfitters’ Aerie brand among them, have market shares in the low single digits.

“VS changed the game for the lingerie market,” said Britanny Carter, industry analyst for IBISWorld. “A lot of stores try to sell sex, whereas VS is more of a lifestyle brand.”

Rather than tiptoe into the market, Hermand-Waiche has raised close to $12 million in funding, hired a former design director from Victoria’s Secret and charted an ambitious plan to make Adore Me a household name. In 2014, it tripled its revenue from a reported $5.6 million the previous year.

The company introduces a collection every month and offers a wide range of sizes, from petites to plus. Like many startups today, Adore Me has used online advertising, social media and referrals to build its brand, but it is also using old-school tactics. In January, it began a television campaign, with spots on networks like Bravo, Lifetime and MTV.

The lingerie business has unique advantages and challenges, said Shikhar Ghosh, a co-leader of Harvard Business School’s entrepreneurial manager program and an investor in the company.

“This is one area where the fashion doesn’t change quickly, and it is dominated by a single large competitor,” he said.

Unlike many startup businesses today, however, this one demands a high initial investment.

“You don’t want to aim low and miss,” Ghosh said.

The inspiration behind Adore Me resembles that of Victoria’s Secret, which was founded by Roy Raymond in 1977 after he went shopping for lingerie for his wife and decided there had to be a better alternative to the department store.

Hermand-Waiche started thinking about the lingerie business in 2010, when he was a second-year MBA student at Harvard and went shopping for a gift for his girlfriend. He couldn’t afford the lingerie he liked and was unimpressed with the lingerie he could afford.

Hermand-Waiche, who was born in France, used the remainder of his time in business school researching the industry, fine-tuning his plan and talking with investors. Soon after graduation, he teamed up with another Frenchman, Gary Bravard, who oversees supply chain management and operations.

The fashion industry was not a huge reach for Hermand-Waiche. His family owns and operates clothing stores throughout France. Before business school, he worked as a junior associate with McKinsey & Co., spending much of his time working with manufacturers in Asia.

Rather than hire a designer and wait up to a year for the merchandise, he started a website in January 2012 with garments designed by suppliers. The logic is not unlike that of a winemaker who sources grapes from another grower until his own crop is ready. To work around the problem of high-volume minimum orders, Hermand-Waiche negotiated with suppliers to stagger deliveries over several months.

Meanwhile, he went to work recruiting his own designer to help shape the Adore Me brand. As luck would have it, Helen Mears, a former design director for Victoria’s Secret and, later, a division of Wacoal Corp., was looking to do something more entrepreneurial. A lace manufacturer introduced Mears and Hermand-Waiche.

“I hired her the same day I met her,” he said.

Today Mears and another designer have a hand in every garment sold by Adore Me. This is no small undertaking, given that the company unveils 30 to 40 new styles every month. There are more than 400 items on the Adore Me site.

Like many retail startups now, the company helps consumers select items by having them take a style quiz and by selling all of its bras and panties in sets.

The company offers a wide range of sizes, from 30A to 42G. Women who wear plus and petite sizes account for roughly a third of the U.S. market, Hermand-Waiche said, and that share is growing. Yet these groups are underserved by traditional lingerie brands. (An online petition is currently on Change.org asking Victoria’s Secret to offer larger sizes.)

Adore Me encourages users to sign up for a free VIP membership. Members are sent a new set of lingerie each month at a discounted price of $25 for the first order, then a $10 discount on sets, which typically sell for $50. Every sixth set is free. Members can opt out of monthly orders or cancel any time.

Shipping is free, as are returns – and everything can be returned; the policy, commonplace among online sellers, is a benefit to online shoppers who like the option of trying on styles and sizes at home. Still, the return rate is just 6 percent, according to Hermand-Waiche, versus 20 to 40 percent for other e-commerce companies.

Hermand-Waiche said he planned eventually to sell Adore Me products in department stores or through stand-alone locations. For now, however, the company is exclusively online and mobile – with the latter accounting for 60 to 70 percent of Adore Me’s traffic.

Customers who follow Adore Me on social media receive the usual promotions, such as free items and express shipping, but they also have the opportunity to give feedback or vote on new styles or lines the company is considering.

“We can develop styles and have prototypes made, put them on the site and see how the customer reacts even before we place the order,” Mears said.

When Adore Me began its television campaign – a bold move for any startup – it used some of the information it had gleaned from social media and its testing to determine what ads to show on what networks, and when.

Expensive television advertising may seem to be an anomaly for a lean online startup aimed primarily at younger customers, but Hermand-Waiche said it made a difference.

Adore Me founder Morgan Hermand-Waiche

“With online advertising, there comes a saturation point, where if people see an ad one more time, it’s not going to help,” he said. “It took almost a year of research, but so far the results have been very good.”

©2015 New York Times

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Henry Sapiecha

15 Types of Men To Avoid Like The Dreaded Plague

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1…Mr. Sleeps Around

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You can’t trust him. He’s tampering with your self esteem. STDs. The example you’re setting for your kids .

The list of reasons to go just keeps going on.

2…Mr. Jail Bird

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We all make mistakes. But should you tether yourself to a man who’s decision making skills are this bad? A repeat offender may be taking you down a road of jail visits, collect calls and other indignities you can do without.

Mr. Jail Bird

We all make mistakes. But should you tether yourself to a man who’s decision making skills are this bad? A repeat offender may be taking you down a road of jail visits, collect calls and other indignities you can do without.

– See more at: http://madamenoire.com/433431/men-to-avoid/2/#sthash.6CaAWaGn.dpuf

 

3…Mr. Won’t Work

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It’s not just that your life could be better with two pay checks. It’s that he’s willing to sit on his behind while he watches you struggle.

4…Mr. Last season

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Two years ago, he fit like a glove. But your life has moved on to bigger and better things.

And if he’s holding you back it might be time to leave him behind.

Mr. Last Season

Two years ago, he fit like a glove. But your life has moved on to bigger and better things. And if he’s holding you back it might be time to leave him behind.

– See more at: http://madamenoire.com/433431/men-to-avoid/4/#sthash.Mu20xbqK.dpuf

5…Mr. Violence

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This is a hard no with an unhappy ending. Having a hard time getting out?

There are plenty of counseling programs and helping hands willing to help you get to safety.

Mr. Violence

This is a hard no with an unhappy ending. Having a hard time getting out? There are plenty of counseling programs and helping hands willing to help you get to safety.

– See more at: http://madamenoire.com/433431/men-to-avoid/5/#sthash.BoewW5if.dpuf

6…Mr. Bully man

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Not all abusive men put their hands on people. If he’s always trying to cut you down to his level, it may be time to cut him loose before he succeeds.

Mr. Bully

Not all abusive men put their hands on people. If he’s always trying to cut you down to his level, it may be time to cut him loose before he succeeds.

– See more at: http://madamenoire.com/433431/men-to-avoid/6/#sthash.1INrGaAy.dpuf

7…Mr. Very Jealous

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Jealousy feels like it’s about you, but it’s really about him. He’s insecure and controlling and no amount of reassurance from you can make that go away.

8…Mr. Liar

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He says he’s changed. His past habits have been lies & deceit
But how will you know if it’s true?

Mr. Liar

He says he’s changed. But how will you know if it’s true?

– See more at: http://madamenoire.com/433431/men-to-avoid/8/#sthash.yEwRgCRp.dpuf

9…Mr. Rebound

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If he’s still holding on to his ex, there’s just no room for you.

Mr. Rebound

If he’s still holding on to his ex, there’s just no room for you.

– See more at: http://madamenoire.com/433431/men-to-avoid/9/#sthash.ZasQqUPZ.dpuf

Mr. Rebound

If he’s still holding on to his ex, there’s just no room for you.

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10…Mr. Anti-Females

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“Females are scandalous, emotional, can’t be trusted, don’t understand and are always trying to lock a brother down.” You’re an exception to the rule now, but if he has no love for women in general one day he’ll sweep you under his stereotypes too

Mr. “Females”

“Females are scandalous, emotional, can’t be trusted, don’t understand and are always trying to lock a brother down.” You’re an exception to the rule now, but if he has no love for women in general one day he’ll sweep you under his stereotypes too

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11…Mr. Sleeps Around

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Three’s a crowd. And when one of you has to go, it’s unlikely to be her.

Mr. Mama’s Boy

Three’s a crowd. And when one of you has to go, it’s unlikely to be her.

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12…Mr. Bailer

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He’s the breadwinner and he’s not about to let you forget it. A man who holds his paycheck over your head thinks you’re bought and paid for. Unless you are, it’s time to move on.

13…Mr. Me Myself  & I

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When you’re dating a narcissist, there’s just no room for you.

14…Mr. Resentment of women

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You just got a raise? “It’s just a few more dollars an hour.” Going back to school?

He can’t understand why you’re wasting your time.

Some men just can’t handle successful women. Time to find one who can.

15…Mr. Not enough for him

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Sometimes you just need more. Love yourself enough to look until you find it.

Hope ladies you have got some value from this article

Henry Sapiecha

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15 Men To Avoid Like The Plague
15 Men To Avoid Like The Plague

GUY ASK 200 TOTAL STRANGERS WOMEN FOR SEX AS A SOCIAL EXPERIMENT IN THIS VIDEO

See how this guy scores or misses out when trying the direct approach with 200 different strangers when just asking for sex

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IF ONLY MEN WERE HONEST IN WHAT THEY WANT WHEN HITTING UP ON A WOMAN-WATCH VIDEO

Here we have a number of guys exposing their real thoughts on video when chatting up chics..

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THINGS A WOMAN SHOULD SAY TO A MAN WHEN YOU ARE HAVING SEX

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First things first: Men don’t really need to hear anything. (By the time we’re naked, we’re not really dwelling on the quality of the conversation.) That said, there’s no harm in making a full-frontal moment even more blissful by boosting your guy’s confidence or revealing something sexy about yourself. Arousal is driven by the brain, after all. So words that put us in a sexier frame of mind can lead to very pleasant results. The next time your man bares all, try one (or all) of these hot lines.

“I want you.” We probably wouldn’t be in this situation if we weren’t already about to have sex, but it’s nice to know that you’re still interested now that you’ve seen our pale thighs and spotty chest hair.

“Your chest/stomach/back is amazing.” Hey, we’re not working out for our health. Well, actually we are working out for our health, but we’re also working out because we want you to notice the little muscles sprouting up under our skin.

“There’s not an imperfection on your body.” If you can’t figure out exactly where to direct your compliment, this Hail Mary approach works just fine. Actually, it works even better.

“Tell me what you like.” This tells us that you’re willing to try new things, and that you want our sex life to be experimental. And trust me—if you try your guy’s kinky suggestions, he’ll try yours.

“That’s one handsome penis.” There’s something about an absurd compliment that feels totally sincere, like there’s no possible way you’re just quoting something you heard in a romcom. So feel free: We accept all forms of bizarre flattery relating to any part of our body or sexual performance. Plus you’ll introduce a little humor, and that’s never a bad thing.

“You can do whatever you want.” A line like this is guaranteed to make a man’s mind wander to some amazing places. Of course—only say it if you mean it (and totally trust this guy).

“I have a condom.” There’s not a damn thing wrong with a woman who can take charge of her sexual health. It lets us know that when we sleep with you, we’re not sleeping with all the other men you’ve slept with.

“You feel so good inside me.” The average guy knows he’s working with average sized equipment. But he wants to believe that he’s using that equipment in such an extraordinary way that you’re never left wishing he had another inch or two to work with. So yeah, a little reassurance is nice.

“Oh oh oh!” Because—like I said—90 percent of the time, we don’t even really need lots of compliments. In those cases, an enthusiastic moan will do wonders.

Henry Sapiecha

THESE ARE THINGS YOU NEVER SAY TO A MAN WHEN HE & YOU ARE NAKED

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There are two reasons men get naked: to get clean, and to get laid. Most of the time, when a guy gets naked in front of you, it’s for the second reason. Or maybe he’s about to go skinny-dipping, which—technically—has the potential to achieve both goals. In any case, a guy who disrobes before you trusts you, and he really cares what you think. Now, I know you’re way too smart to actually utter any of these phrases next to a nude dude, but just in case, here’s a little refresher:

Why aren’t you hard yet? Hey, sometimes we need to warm up slowly! But now that you asked, we’re too self-conscious and stuck inside our own head to finish the job. If we were a little too drunk, now we’re way too drunk. If we were a little too tired, suddenly our eyelids feel like anvils. It’s fine to think this one, but please don’t ask.

Are you going to get off? Same thing here—as soon as you ask, it’s definitely not happening. Sensitive sex mishaps are best dealt with delicately. If you think he’s struggling, just slow down and give him a chance to rethink his attack. Odds are he just needs a new position, a new rhythm, or a helping hand.

Oh! I have to take this call! Chances are you don’t. You’re choosing to though, and that’s kind of a boner killer.

Don’t worry—it’s cold in here. OK, OK, let’s not patronize us, alright? We’re probably already well aware of the cold and its effects. And even if it’s not cold—well, sometimes shrinkage happens for reasons we can’t explain. Maybe we just had a big workout, and all our blood is routed to our muscles. Or a big meal, and all our blood is in our stomach. We don’t know, OK? We’re not scientists!

Do you love me? Of course we love you! We love you more than the internet loves cats! Or, you know, if this is a casual thing, at least we do right now. But if you want a truly honest answer, ask us later, when we’re not so naked.ast try to phrase this in a way that doesn’t sound like we’re going to compete with some other guy’s go-to move. It’s perfectly OK to tell us what to do without also explicitly telling us that you know it from experience—like whispering in our ear how much you want us (us!) to do something to you.

Guys usually love it when I… Again, this just has a bad ring to it. Would you like it if we brought up all the girls we hooked up with while you’re naked? Didn’t think so.

I have something important I need to tell you… Bad news sounds worse when you’re naked—and we’re also less likely to give it the full weight it deserves. So whether you’re married, you’re still in love with your ex boyfriend, you’re a lesbian, you have an infectious STI, you had sex with our best friend, or anything else totally serious, please—tell us while our clothes are still on.

Wow—guys are really hairy. Any time you say “guys are …” when you’re next to our naked body, we know you’re talking specifically about us. We know not all guys are really hairy. We also know that we are. Thanks for making a point to tell us.

You should really watch Magic Mike with me. Really? Now? Channing?

So tell me about your last breakup. Really? Now? Relationship talk?

I really need to clean this apartment. This has to stop. Chances are your guy didn’t tear off his shirt to show you his meandering happy trail. He probably wants to jump your bones, and any random tangents make us feel like we’re less than exciting and not exactly great at keeping your attention. If you want to talk about something important pre-sex, may I suggest what position you’d like to try first?

Actually, I’m not really in the mood anymore. Well that is information we could have used before we hurled our jeans across the room in a flamboyant display of passion. So pardon while we step off into the bathroom for a few minutes. We have a thing to attend to.

A LIST OF 7 THINGS TO DO WITH A MAN TO GET HIS ATTENTION & KEEP IT

MY HEART IS YOURS MAN

So, maybe there is a guy you like and you are looking for ways to catch his attention. You might even be dating him or married to him. Whatever the status is with this guy that has you looking for ways to catch his attention, these ideas will work. It can actually be quite fun trying them out.

1. Smile

One of the very best ways to catch his attention is to smile at him. It sounds too simple to work, doesn’t it? But it actually does work and quite well. The trick is to give him a smile and hold it for several seconds. Don’t be surprised if he even asks you what you are smiling about. Be ready with a good answer!

2. Lean Forward

Leaning forward when a man talks to you can give him the message that you are very interested in what he is saying. And when he knows he has a captive audience, he is certainly going to take notice. Not only will he enjoy your attentiveness but he is very likely to go on talking for quite a while, which is something that most women really enjoy. We all love a guy who wants to open his heart and share his thoughts with us. Letting him know you are paying close attention by leaning forward will help him to do that.

3. Wear Red

This one surprised me a bit but men actually notice women that are wearing red more than women who are not. Maybe this is because men struggle with a degree of color blindness and this bright, bold color is an easy one for their eye to enjoy. Whatever the reason, if you are trying to catch his attention, comb your closet for something red to wear. If you don’t have anything in this color then it just may be time to go shopping. A solid top in this hue is just the ticket here.

4. Wear Your Hair down

If your hair is long, wear it down. Most men, but certainly not all, like long hair. You can get bonus points if you play with a strand of it a bit. This is a great way to catch a man’s attention. You are drawing his attention in and he may just be captivated by you when you do this.

5. Laugh at His Jokes

Most men cannot resist a woman who he can entertain. There is a bit of a little boy in most men. This little boy on the inside loves the challenge of seeing if he can make someone laugh and when you do, he is a happy man. He may keep right on telling jokes to see if he can make you keep right on laughing. Your appreciation of his humor will flatter him.

6. Wink

A flirtatious little wink will certainly catch a man’s attention. It gives him the message that you noticed him and you like what you see. This is a great way to put the ball in a man’s court, too. One little wink isn’t so hard to manage. This is an easy way you can turn it back to him and wait and see what he does next.

7. Don’t Speak First

This is a bit of a game changer. Give a guy your smile and just wait. If you speak first, you lose. If you wait and just continue giving him a pretty smile when he looks your way, you are guaranteed to be noticed. The goal is to get him interested enough that he talks first and strikes up a conversation with you.

Now it’s your turn, ladies. What methods do you use to catch his attention? What has gave you guaranteed success in this area?

Henry Sapiecha

SEVERAL TRAITS OF MEN THAT WOMEN FIND IRRESISTABLE

 Traits That Make a Man Irresistible Almost Instantly …

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There are certain traits that make a man irresistible, for reasons unknown to us all. Sure, we want the whole package, but there are small things that entice us all. If a guy has one of these traits that make a man irresistible, then he’s definitely a contender to winning your heart.

1. Adorable Accent

An average looking man is transformed into a god after you hear his accent. Everyone has their personal favorite, but it’s a universal fact that no one can resist the British. Wouldn’t you love to hear an accented voice tell you how beautiful you look? One of the traits that make a man irresistible is his voice. It can make or break him.

2. Impressive Instrument

If you see a guy step on a stage, it’s pretty hot. He has enough confidence to get up in front of people. He has enough passion to follow his dreams. But the moment he picks up a guitar or sits behind his drum set, he instantly becomes irresistible. Even if he has no clue how to play, somehow he’ll still manage to look fantastic.

3. His Humor

Everyone gets lucky with their jokes once and a while. If he makes you laugh a few times, that’s great. But the moment you realize that the man you’re talking to is absolutely hysterical, you never want to leave his side. Life is meant to be fun, so if he makes you laugh, don’t let him leave

4. Physical Distinctions

This can take the form of many different things. For some women, tattoos are a selling point. If a man has a full sleeve, there’s no stopping her from flirting with him. For others, beards are what make them swoon. Everyone has their own preference.

5. Just like You

When you see a guy reading your favorite novel or wearing your favorite band’s t-shirt, you want to get to know him. He obviously has great taste, so you’d be able to talk for hours. Even though you don’t know anything else about him, you can imagine what his entire personality is like. You may not be right, but that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t get to know him.

6. Swell Scent

There will be moments when you’ll walk past a guy, and you’ll be delighted by his delicious scent. Some men are experts at choosing cologne. They pick the one that you wish you could smell forever. You want to breathe in the scent from his shirt and have it to cling to your pillows. If you’re lucky, one day that’ll happen

7. Coming across Confidently

As long as he’s not cocky, confidence is attractive. It hardly matters what he looks like if he has confidence in his personality and looks. We’re all insecure about certain things, so it takes strength to walk around like you’re completely happy with yourself. If you find a man that walks tall, speaks with confidence, and acts like he has life figured out, why wouldn’t you want to spend some more time with him?

For some reason, there are certain attributes that make a man more attractive than you originally thought he was. All it takes is a little guitar strumming or cologne, and you’re stuck swooning. What traits make you instantly attracted to a man?

 

MEN LOOK AT WOMEN’S BODIES MORE THAN THEIR FACES

MEN FOCUS ON WOMEN’S BODIES & NOT THEIR FACES STUDY SHOWS

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Most women have long since figured this one on their own, but a new study confirms that men look at women’s bodies more than their faces. Researchers from the University of Nebraska-Lincoln found that participants, when asked to look at full-body images of women, spend more time on breasts and waists before heading north.

Publishing their findings in academic journal Sex Roles, psychologists Sarah Gervais and Michael Dodd recruited 65 college-aged students in an attempt to discover the amount of time spent ogling the female form. Fitting them with an eye-tracking device, researchers asked the students to look at three photos of 10 different women while they measured the amount of time each recruit dwelt on various parts of the women’s bodies. The participants were then asked to rate the appearance or personality of each female pictured. In order to ascertain preference for a particular body type, the original image was manipulated – enhancing or decreasing sexualised body parts—in an effort to see which body type was more likely to draw attention. Responses show that men prefer curvier silhouettes, and judged their personalities more favourably.

“Although objectification theory suggests that women frequently experience the objectifying gaze with many adverse consequences, there is scant research examining the nature and causes of the objectifying gaze for perceivers,” explain the authors in the study’s abstract. “The main purpose of this work was to examine the objectifying gaze towards women via eye tracking technology. A secondary purpose was to examine the impact of body shape on this objectifying gaze.”

Beyond the confirmation of stereotypes, Gervais and Dodd seek to understand the mechanics behind the objectification of women in an attempt to prevent the limitations that come from reducing them into sexual objects. “It can undermine work performance,” said Gervais. “It can cause [women] to self-silence and it’s related to increased perceptions of sexual harassment. If you think about all of the negative consequences, figuring out what’s triggering all of those consequences, that’s the first step towards stopping it from happening.”

But it’s not only men who have been caught out; women are equally culpable when it comes to objectifying the bodies of other women. “We do have a slightly different pattern for men than women, but when we looked at their overall dwell times—how long they focused on each body part – we find the exact same effects for both groups,” added Gervais. “Women, we think, do it often for social comparison purposes.”

To reduce objectification, regardless of gender, Dodd says people first need to become aware of how they look at women – and make behavioural adjustments as necessary.

“By characterising the manner in which people fixate on the body when engaging in objectifying behaviour, it also becomes possible to determine methods of reducing this behaviour,” he said. “It’s not as though looking at the body of someone has to be, or is, a default behaviour. It just may be the case that cognitive control is required to engage in more appropriate, and less damaging, visual behaviour.”

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THE ILLUSION OF MARRIAGE – WHY MEN NOW HAVE MORE CHOICES THAN EVER BEFORE

THE SYSTEM HAS TURNED MORE & MORE MEN AWAY FROM THE UNION OF MARRIAGE BECAUSE OF THE CHOICES AVAILABLE TO THEM NOW

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It seems that fewer and fewer people in general are getting married these days, and even fewer men seem interested. Men no longer see marriage as being as important as they did even 15 years ago. “According to Pew Research Center, the share of women ages eighteen to thirty-four that say having a successful marriage is one of the most important things in their lives rose nine percentage points since 1997–from 28 percent to 37%. For men, the opposite occurred. The share voicing this opinion dropped, from 35 percent to 29 percent.” Why?

In the course of researching my new book, Men On Strike: Why Men Are Boycotting Marriage, Fatherhood, and the American Dream – And Why It Matters, I talked with men all over America about why they’re avoiding marriage. It turns out that the problem isn’t that men are immature, or lazy. Instead, they’re responding rationally to the incentives in today’s society. Here are some of the answers I found.

1. You’ll lose respect. A couple of generations ago, a man wasn’t considered fully adult until he was married with kids. But today, fathers are figures of fun more than figures of respect: The schlubby guy with the flowered diaper bag at the mall, or one of the endless array of buffoonish TV dads in sitcoms and commercials. In today’s culture, father never knows best. It’s no better in the news media. As communications professor James Macnamara reports, “by volume, 69 percent of mass media reporting and commentary on men was unfavorable, compared with just 12 percent favorable and 19 percent neutral or balanced.”

2. You’ll lose out on sex. Married men have more sex than single men, on average – but much less than men who are cohabiting with their partners outside of marriage, especially as time goes on. Research even suggests that married women are more likely to gain weight than women who are cohabiting without marriage. Men’s Health article mentioned one study that followed 2,737 people for six years and found that cohabiters said they were happier and more confident than married couples and singles.

3. You’ll lose friends. “Those wedding bells are breaking up that old gang of mine.” That’s an old song, but it’s true. When married, men’s ties with friends from school and work tend to fade. Although both men and women lose friends after marriage, it tends to affect men’s self-esteem more, perhaps because men tend to be less social in general.

4. You’ll lose space. We hear a lot about men retreating to their “man caves,” but why do they retreat? Because they’ve lost the battle for the rest of the house. The Art of Manliness blog mourns “The Decline of Male Space,” and notes that the development of suburban lifestyles, intended to bring the family together, resulted in the elimination of male spaces in the main part of the house, and the exile of men to attics, garages, basements – the least desirable part of the home. As a commenter to the post observes: “There was no sadder scene to a movie than in ‘Juno’ when married guy Jason Bateman realized that in his entire huge, house, he had only a large closet to keep all the stuff he loved in. That hit me like a punch in the face.”

5. You could lose your kids, and your money. And they may not even be your kids. Lots of men I spoke with were keenly aware of the dangers of divorce, and worried that if they were married and it went sour, the woman might take everything, including the kids. Other men were concerned that they might wind up paying child support for kids who aren’t even theirs – a very real possibility in many states. On my blog, I polled over 3200 men to ask how they would react to finding out that a child wasn’t theirs after all. 32 percent said they would feel “anger and fury at the mother,” 6 percent said they would feel “depression,” 18 percent said “anger and depression,” 2 percent said “none of the above,” 32 percent said “angry at the system that forced them to pay,” and only 2 percent “didn’t care.” One man commented that his ex-wife had taunted him with the knowledge that his 11-year old son wasn’t actually his: “I was angry at the mother…I severed all ties to the boy. Some may see this as a failing. I see it as self-preservation, and to those that ask the question of whether or not the courts will make a non-biological parent pay child support, pay attention: YES THEY WILL! They see you as nothing more than a source of cash for the child. It seems that a person in these situations should be able to sue the real father for child support.”

6. You’ll lose in court. Men often complain that the family court legal system is stacked against them, and in fact it seems to be. Women gain custody and child support the majority of the time, as pointed out in this ABC News article: “Despite the increases in men seeking and receiving alimony, advocates warn against linking the trend to equality in the courtroom. Family court judges still tend to favor women, said Ned Holstein, the founder of Fathers & Families, a group advocating family court reform. “‘Family court still gives custody overwhelmingly to mothers, child support overwhelmingly to mothers, and courts still give almony overwhelmingly to mothers and women,’ he said. ‘The family courts came into existence years ago in order to give things to mothers that mothers needed,” he said. ‘The times have changed and the courts have not.’”

7. You’ll lose your freedom. At least, if you’re charged with child support that you can’t pay, you can be put in jail – and if you can’t afford a lawyer, you don’t have the right to have one appointed because, according to the Supreme Court, it’s technically a civil matter, never mind the jail time. Fathers and Families found that it’s the men who are jailed rather than women: “A new report concludes that between 95% and 98.5% of all incarcerations in Massachusetts sentenced from the Massachusetts Probate and Family Courts from 2001 through 2011 have been men. Moreover, this percentage may be increasing, with an average of 94.5% from 2001 to 2008, and 96.2% from 2009 through 2011. It is likely that most of these incarcerations are for incomplete payment of child support. Further analysis suggests that women who fail to pay all of their child support are incarcerated only one-eighth as often as men with similar violations.”

8. Single life is better than ever. While the value of marriage to men has declined, the quality of single life has improved. Single men were once looked on with suspicion, passed over for promotion for important jobs, which usually valued “stable family men,” and often subjected to social opprobrium. It was hard to have a love life that wasn’t aimed at marriage, and premarital sex was risky and frowned upon. Now, no one looks askance at the single lifestyle, dating is easy, and employers probably prefer employees with no conflicting family responsibilities. Plus, video games, cable TV, and the Internet provide entertainment that didn’t used to be available. Is this good for society? Probably not, as falling birth rates and increasing single-motherhood demonstrate. But people respond to incentives. If you want more men to marry, it needs to be a more attractive proposition.

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