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Indian teenager becomes a rapist’s nightmare

Rape is common in Indian villages because the men responsible don’t face consequences. That could now be changing.

Bitiya, who agreed to be photographed with her face covered, in her village image www.goodgirlsgo.com

Bitiya, who agreed to be photographed with her face covered, in her village. Photo: Nicholas Kristof/The New York Times

For as long as anyone can remember, upper-caste men in a village in northern India preyed on young girls. The rapes continued because there was no risk: the girls were destroyed, but the men faced no repercussions.

Now that might be changing in the area, partly because of the courage of one teenage girl who is fighting back. Indian law does not permit naming of rape victims, so she requested she be called Bitiya, and she is a rapist’s nightmare. This isn’t one more tragedy of sexual victimisation but rather a portrait of an indomitable teenager whose willingness to take on the system inspires us and helps protect other Indian girls.

I want them in jail, then everyone watching will know that people can get punished for this.

Bitiya

I see in Bitiya a lesson for the world about the importance of ending the impunity that so often surrounds sexual violence.

The young rape victim pushing to see her attackers punished wants other Indian girls to be able to live free of the fear of sexual violence.

Bitiya, who is from the bottom of the caste system, is fuzzy about her age, but thinks she was 13 in 2012 when four upper-caste village men grabbed her as she worked in a field, stripped her and raped her. They filmed the assault and warned her that if she told anyone, they would release the video and also kill her brother, so Bitiya initially kept quiet.

Six weeks later, Bitiya’s father saw a 15-year-old boy watching a pornographic video and was aghast to see his daughter in it. The men were selling the video in a local store for a dollar a copy.

Bitiya is crying in the video and is held down by the men, so her family accepted she was blameless. Her father went to the police to file a report.

The police weren’t interested in following up, but the village elders were. They decided Bitiya, an excellent student, should be barred from the public school.

“They said I was the wrong kind of girl and it would affect other girls,” Bitiya said. “I felt very bad about that.”

Eventually, public pressure forced the school to take her back, but the village elders continue to block the family from receiving government food rations, apparently as punishment for speaking out.

In the background hovers caste. Bitiya is a Dalit, once considered untouchable, at the bottom of the hierarchy.

Civil society scrutiny belatedly led to the arrest of four men, who were then released on bail. The case has been dragging on since, and Bitiya’s father died of a heart attack after one particularly brutal court hearing. The family also fears members of upper castes will kill Bitiya’s 16-year-old brother, so he mostly stays home,  which means he cannot work, leaving the family struggling to afford food.

The rape suspects offered a $20,000 settlement if Bitiya’s family would drop the case, bringing the money in cash to her home with its dirt floor. Bitiya had never seen so much cash – but scoffs that she would not accept twice as much.

“I want them in jail,” Bitiya says, “then everyone watching will know that people can get punished for this.”

“I never felt tempted,” her grandfather adds.

Bitiya says she does not feel disgraced, because the dishonour lies in raping rather than in being raped. And the resolve that she and her family display is having an impact. The rape suspects had to sell land to pay bail, and everybody in the area now understands that raping girls might actually carry consequences. So while there were many rapes in the village before Bitiya’s, none are believed to have occurred since.

Madhavi Kuckreja​, a longtime women’s activist who is helping Bitiya, says the case reflects a measure of progress against sexual violence.

“There has been a breaking of the silence,” Kuckreja says. “People are speaking up and filing cases.”

Kuckreja notes that the cost of sexual violence is a paralysinging fear that affects all women and girls. Fearful parents “protect” daughters from sexual violence and boys in ways that impede the girls’ ability to get an education, use the internet or cellphones, or get a good job. For every girl who is raped, Kuckreja says, many thousands lose opportunities and mobility because of fear of such violence.

That holds back women, but also all of India. The International Monetary Fund says India’s economy is stunted by the lack of women in the formal economy.

In one village, I asked a large group of men about rape. They insisted they honour women and deplore rape – and then added that the best solution after a rape is for the girl to be married to the rapist, to smooth over upset feelings.

“If he raped her, he probably likes her,” Shiv Govind, 18, explained.

I’m supporting Bitiya and strong girls like her to change those attitudes and end the impunity that oppresses women and impoverishes nations.

Nicholas Kristof is a New York Times columnist.

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Henry Sapiecha

Why pole-dancing shoes should be a staple in every woman’s wardrobe

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I WOULD consider myself an average kind of girl; not particularly feminine, but definitely not a tomboy.

I suppose I do like to dress nicely, but when it comes to high heels I have absolutely no time for them at all. Okay, that’s a lie — I have a standard pair of chunky black high heels that I will reluctantly wear to formal events, but I usually end up in bare feet after the 4th or 5th champagne. Other than my sturdy and faithful black heels which I wear on the very rare occasion, I’m all about the ballet flats for work and Birkenstocks on weekends.

However, a few years ago I tried on a pair of heels that would change my life forever. They were the most comfortable pair of heels — maybe even shoes — that had ever adorned my feet. The cushioning on the sole provided a level of comfort that I had never experienced before. The straps over my toes and around my ankles moulded perfectly to my foot, as if I was Cinderella trying on the glass slipper. The grip on the bottom of the heels made me feel balanced and confident, and my legs had never looked better. Since then, I have worn them about two or three times a week with absolutely no pain, no blisters and no complaints.

I have all the time in the world for these babies — I’m talking about my hot pink, 6 inch platform heels. They’re perfect for spinning around a pole.

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Grip on the bottom and cushioning on the inner sole … So easy to wear.

Now before you jump to conclusions I do pole dancing for fitness, not as a profession — although I have absolutely no problem with those who do. Anyone who has tried the increasingly popular sport will tell you how exhilarating and empowering pole dancing is. Nothing beats the feeling of when you’ve nailed that super scary move that you never thought you would be able to do. Pole dancing has been amazing for my confidence and self-esteem, I feel like I’m continuously surprising myself in every class. If you told me years ago that one day I would feel comfortable enough to wear booty shorts with massive high heels, I would never have believed you.

What many people don’t realise about those “crazy stripper” heels is that they do actually serve a purpose and many dancer (myself included) struggle without them. Firstly the straps are usually latex or patent leather, which helps you grip when you’re climbing a pole and protects the delicate bones on top of your feet. Secondly, the grip on the bottom of the shoes help you pivot and do pretty turns. And thirdly, the height of the platform helps you grab the pole higher than you usually would be able to.

The platform under the ball of the foot and the ankle strap also makes them incredibly comfortable image www.goodgirlsgo.com

The platform under the ball of the foot and the ankle strap also makes them incredibly comfortable.

All of these factors make for a seriously deceivingly comfortable pair of heels, that even male dancers manage to perform their tricks in. I’ve seen guys wear massive platforms so big that they put my measly 6 inches to shame.

Michelle Shimmy in her pole heels pole dancer image www.goodgirlsgo.com

I’ve discussed the comfort level of these shoes with my fellow dancers. The general consensus is that the combination of a non-slip sole, a heavily cushioned inner sole and ankle support from the strap that makes these the most deceptively comfortable shoes on the market.

Michelle Shimmy, professional pole dancer and co-owner of the Pole Dance Academy adds that the platform base that balances the stiletto heel is the icing on the cake.

“I think it’s because the platform is so high that it takes the pressure off ball of your foot” she says.

“I can wear them all night.”

Oh, and the best bit? You can buy them online for about $80. What’s not to like?

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Henry Sapiecha

DO YOU BELIEVE THIS WOMAN HAS BEEN PREGNANT FOR 2YEARS?

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According to the story, Angie claimed that doctors advised her about her condition, and told her that if she wanted to continue with her pregnancy, it would take a long time, probably up to 24 months, and she insisted to continue with the pregnancy. However, she now claims that the feeling is unbearable. She says that her baby weighs 19 pounds, and that for the past four months she could no longer walk. Medical experts are baffled with this case and they said that this is the first time ever for a mother to carry her child for more than 10 months, let alone 2 years!

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When news about a girl name Angie Dellora went viral, it sent shockwaves around the internet, especially among mothers and mothers to be. Imagine the struggle that every mother has to go through when carrying a child for 9 months – but imagine what Angie Dellora feels like, being pregnant with her boy for 24 months. That is two years of being pregnant, and still, she have not delivered yet. According to Angie, she just cannot take it anymore, and she certainly cannot wait to deliver and see her son. But at least, that is what Angie Dellora claims in the stories.

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Many people question, will the mother and baby survive the birth process? How can the baby last for so long in the womb? According to Angie Dellora, she is going to China to try out an experimental acupuncture treatment that would help to calm her nervous system down and regulate her blood cells, which would help to normalize the growth rate of the baby’s organ, and hopefully help Dellora to give birth faster. Angie claims that she is keeping her faith and hopes high and she hopes for the best after the experimental treatment.

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However, how true are the claims of Angie Dellora? Or the biggest question of them all, does she truly even exist? While the story of Angie Dellora’s 2 years pregnancy sent shockwaves through social media, being shared all over – there are many sceptics who believes that such claims is just impossible, and most probably that the story is a hoax, or not true. Further research into this story, some people found out the whole truth – and the truth is nothing as close to what the story claims. In fact, you will be shocked to know the real truth is….

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The real truth is Angie Dellora does not even exist, and the story is a hoax spread by NewsWatch-28, a popular comedy and satirical news sites. Blogs picked up the story, and started duplicating and spreading out the story. The woman in the picture is actually Czech mother, Alexandra Kinova. Yes, she is pregnant, and no she had not been pregnant for 2 years – but her pregnant belly is super huge because she carried quintuplets. Alexandra Kinova gave birth to 4 healthy sons and a daughter in 2013 in Prague.  The satirical website stole her picture and made up a fake story.

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This is a recent picture of the real women in the picture, Alexandra Kinova, with her husband, Antonin Kroscen, and their beautiful quintuplets. Her babies were the first quintuplets in the history of Czech Republic. They were naturally conceived, and she had an ordinary C-Section birth with no complications. Doctors cleared that the babies will grow up to be healthy. So there you go, the story of the allegedly 24 months old pregnant Angie Dellora is a hoax and is fake. Medically and scientifically, the story did not make sense, and nothing like that could ever happen. So mothers to be can take a sigh of relief.

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Henry Sapiecha