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When Amy Webb’s relationship came crashing down she turned to online dating.

Lazily, she copied and pasted her resume into her profile.

“In the descriptive part up top, I said that I was an award-winning journalist and a future thinker, says Webb in her Ted Talk titled: How I hacked online dating.

“When I was asked about fun activities and my ideal date, I said monetization and fluency in Japanese,” she says.

She also talked a lot about Java Script, a computer programming language.

Putting her not-so-sexy foot forward, Webb went on what she described as “truly awful dates.”

Before giving up, she did some research on how to make her profile more attractive. Webb soon became the most popular person online.

Similarly, a new study from online dating site eHarmony has found that when filling out a dating profile the words used can greatly affect the experience.

The study, which involved 12,000 members, found a list of keywords that make a profile more desirable to the opposite sex.

For men, the adjectives, “perceptive”, “physically fit” and “passionate” are more likely to motivate women to start a conversation with them. While adding the words, “quiet”, “energetic” and “respectful” to a profile can have the opposite effect.

Researchers also found women who use the words, “sweet”, “funny” and “ambitious” receive more interest. But the words, “spiritual”, “quiet” and “romantic” fall flat.

Wired website conducted a similar study on how to write the perfect online dating profile.

Using data from dating sites OK Cupid and, they found people who listed surfing and yoga, followed by skiing and the ocean had the most success.

Additionally, “the most attractive band you can mention is Radiohead,” says the website.

Finding the right profile picture isn’t easy either.

Looking at the pictures of OK Cupid’s top 400 profiles Wired found wacky photos were unattractive, and suggested swapping your profile picture regularly to appear fresh. Narrowing it down to three rules they say: “Stay fresh, stay clothed, get out.”

Interestingly, when it comes to choosing a profile picture, Webb found that more popular women showed some skin.

She says: “The most popular words used by the most popular women were words like, “fun”, “girl” and “love”.

While this information could be mistaken for “catfishing”, Webb points out that hacking your profile isn’t about fabricating information.

“It’s about being more approachable,” she says.

A few weeks later Webb met a guy name Thevenin and two and half years later they were married.

“As it turns out, there is an algorithm for love. It’s just not the ones that we’re being presented with online,” Webb says.

“All you have to really do is figure out your own framework and play by your own rules.”

“And feel free to be as picky as you want.”

Henry Sapiecha

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